After my mothers passing, my brothers, the youngest now back in the states in the NYPD, and I tried to work out a schedule to assist my father. Trying to coordinate with them and caring for my two year old daughter would not be easy. We hired a home health aid and I, as a teacher, did have more flexibility than them so I took the lead in our efforts. Over the past years my father’s diet had become extremely unhealthy, cheeseburgers, pizza and ice cream his main meals. He was over 200lbs and along with the dementia he had high cholesterol and Type II Diabetes. Even with the aid there in the day it become clear that he either had to be put in a home or move in with me. He would go out and eat off diet, take a whole weeks medication in a single day if he found the weekly pill container. He had no clue what was going on with his health and was on auto pilot. After a family meeting it was decided he would move in with me after we found a suitable house. Four months later we moved into our current home in New Jersey and a whole new life of craziness would start. There would be frustrating times, happy times and sad times, but they were all shared times together as a family. In the beginning he was still capable of helping out, he even use to drive my wife to the train station for the first year since it was one road back and forth. Every morning asking her the same questions. Things like where do you work, how many brothers do you have, are they married, and after answering them every time the same answer within a 30 second period of time, she decided to change things up and make it interesting by using different answers for the same questions each time. So for example, are your brothers married, if she said no, he’d ask why. She’d say the first time, that they didn’t find the right woman yet, then the second time, that both were gay. That always got the most expressive responsive from him which was absolute silence. You have to learn to go with the flow because this type of repetitiveness could drive YOU crazy if you don’t.